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In memory of my father


On 10/23/2014 at 01:55 AM by VisuaLIES

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On Monday, October 20th, my father passed away after succumbing to the effects of cancer.  It was a rather short battle.  He had only just started showing symptoms in late August and was diagnosed in early September, and now, in the proverbial blink of an eye, he's gone.  The last few weeks had been especially agonizing for him, so I'm glad he's no longer suffering.  He taught me to place others' needs before my own, along with the value of hard work.  I, and all his family and friends, will miss him dearly.

I could tell any number of stories about him, but since this is a gaming website, I'll share my memories most relevant to that subject.  My dad was never a gamer (I don't think that term existed back then), but somehow one Christmas I wound up with an Atari 2600 that I didn't even ask for.  Hell, prior to getting one I didn't even know it existed.  I didn't have more than a handful of games for the system, but we played countless hours of Space Invaders, Pac-Man, Warlords, and oh yes, Combat.  For the uninitiated, Combat was a war game (which came with every system) for two players, which consisted of single screen maps, where each player would control a tank, plane, or jet, and the object of course was to shoot the other player.  Though the controls were sluggish, most battles were balanced, with one glaring exception.  There was one map where one player got to be a squadron of 3 planes, and the other player was stuck with one big ass target plane.  Well, any dad who loved his kid picked the big plane and let his kid control the smaller, more agile planes (and automatically win), just to see the smile on their face, and my dad was no exception.  It was such a small thing, and even as a child I knew it was kind of unfair, but it made me feel like the greatest gamer/pilot ever.

combat screenshot 3 small planes vs 1 big one

Years later (after Atari almost single-handedly killed the video game industry), I asked for, and got, an NES for Christmas.  My dad never did get accustomed to playing on a gamepad--he could only use a joystick, and eventually games became too complicated for him to try to learn.  I even tried to get him to play the NES version of Pac-Man, a game he was familiar with from the (much crappier) Atari version, but to no avail.  He did enjoy the occasional game of Duck Hunt and the fishing games which used a rod and reel controller, but the end of Atari's relevance also effectively ended his game-playing career.

As I write this, I'm reminded of two things.  "Casual" games, like mobile games or motion controlled fare, are still games, and are way more complex than what we started out with decades ago.  They allow adults and children who may not otherwise have the skill or interest in more traditional gaming to enjoy our hobby and share our passion.  The second thing is that if my dad hadn't let me win at Combat, I probably wouldn't love games as much as I do, and would have a lot more money and free time.  I also would have one less awesome memory of him.  I'll miss you so much dad.


 

Comments

KnightDriver

10/23/2014 at 03:04 AM

Sorry for you loss. My Dad passed away only two years ago and my story is very similar to yours. He was always into the latest gadgets and got us kids an Atari 2600 one Christmas. He never played it, but us kids really go into it. The only time I played a video game with him was Monopoly on the Sega Genesis sometime in the 90s; I think he dozed off before we finished the game. We mainly shared an interest in books and went to a lot of book stores together. 

VisuaLIES

10/25/2014 at 12:07 AM

Thank you.  It's good that you and your father shared some interests.  I kind of regret not liking the same things he did, him being the outdoorsman and me... not.  I did grow to like watching football, probably even more than he did, so we did share that.  My son, though still very young, likes being outside, so I'm going to try to do some of the things that his grandpa enjoyed with him.

KnightDriver

10/25/2014 at 04:05 AM

That's really cool. My Dad and I also went fishing sometimes. I'll be at the beach at Thanksgiving and was thinking on a boat trip kinda like what we used to do. I wasn't so much into fishing myself. I just wanted to see the fish and maybe take pictures. But I fished because he wanted to.

TheMart22

10/23/2014 at 07:21 AM

Sorry to hear man. You have my sincere condolences.

VisuaLIES

10/25/2014 at 12:08 AM

Thank you.

Ranger1

10/23/2014 at 07:46 AM

Sorry for your loss. My dad died six and a half years ago on Valentine's Day. I still miss hm a lot. But he thought video games were stupid, but I would have liked to show him Ratchet and Clank, because that might have changed his mind.

VisuaLIES

10/25/2014 at 12:11 AM

I believe that there's a game out there for everyone, as long as they have an open mind.  A lot of older people see them as a waste of time or can't wrap their heads around the controls or whatnot, but games are way more inclusive nowadays.  I only started playing Ratchet and Clank on PS3, but I loved Tools of Destruction and Quest for Booty (I have Crack in Time but never finished it).

Ranger1

10/25/2014 at 12:14 AM

You should get the original collection, it's available for the PS3 now. I think the second game is my favorite - love the Sheepinator!

mothman

10/23/2014 at 08:17 AM

I'm saddened to hear that. My dad is in his 80's and has alzheimer's so while he's not dead the person that he once was has disappeared a bit at a time over the last few years. My dad was never a gamer but I remember him and his friends playing golf on the Commodore 64 one evening.

VisuaLIES

10/25/2014 at 12:18 AM

Sorry to hear that.  My wife's dad has a form of dementia, and has declined over the last few years.  She is taking it pretty hard.  He used to be a happy, outgoing guy, always joking, and now he doesn't remember anybody and can't really do anything for himself.  It's truly a shame.  I miss my dad but I don't know if I could bear to see him like that either, so I feel for you too.

Jamie Alston Staff Writer

10/23/2014 at 10:12 AM

Hey man.  I stumbled across this post.  Beautiful article man.  I'm sorry your dad has passed away, but he seemed like an awesome guy.

Thanks for sharing your memories with us.

VisuaLIES

10/25/2014 at 12:19 AM

Thanks.  Yeah, he was pretty awesome.  I feel like I should have told him that every day.  We didn't have many heartfelt conversations, but we both knew how we felt about each other.

xDarthKiLLx

10/23/2014 at 06:32 PM

I also lost my dad to something similar.

You have my condolences.  Strength, brother.  I wish you and your family both nothing but the best.

VisuaLIES

10/25/2014 at 12:23 AM

Thank you.  I miss him, but I feel saddest when thinking about my son.  He loves his grandpa so much, and doesn't really understand what happened.  He probably doesn't even know yet that he won't see him anymore.  All he knows is that his grandpa is "sleeping".

xDarthKiLLx

10/25/2014 at 08:12 PM

He'll be grateful to you for using that euphemism, when he's old enough to understand why you did it.

Softening the blow....that's one of the hallmarks of good parenting, brother.  

Stay strong.

Matt Snee Staff Writer

10/24/2014 at 05:42 AM

Im sorry to hear about your dad.  I worry about my dad often.  He bought us our first computer, a TI99 when i was a kid and i gamed on it endlessly.

VisuaLIES

10/25/2014 at 12:27 AM

Thanks.  Just spend as much quality time as you can with your loved ones.  You may not be able to see them as often as you like, but make the time you do spend with them count.  That's the best advice I can give.

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